Millions of people celebrate Valentine’s Day today and the influences of this world have men and women spending billions of dollars on flowers, chocolate, romantic dinners and getaways.  And the man-made vision of a fat little cherub firing arrows at people inducing love seems to reinforce a faulty belief:  that love is something that happens to us without a choice, like a chemical reaction or a feeling we just cannot fight.

But what exactly is love according to God’s Word? What should a strong, loving marriage look like? And why do nearly half of all marriages end in divorce? This sad reality even strikes professing Christians. Where are we going wrong?

We’re joined by Pastor Jeff Solwold of Calvary Chapel in Madison, Wisconsin to discuss God’s definition of love and His guidelines for a joyous marriage that glorifies Him, one in which honors one another.  How do we as committed Christians have strong marriages even when things do not go according to our human desires, expectations, and plans?

The Excellence of Love

If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing. Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part; 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. 13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:1-13

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. Ephesians 5:22-27